A present from Mrs.Nightingale

The present I got today

I’ve been seeing Mrs. Nightingale for 6 months now.She is one of my regular cliënts that's registered in my home care service.I’ll be at her home every Wednesday morning from 9.00 to 11.30.

I was this morning not quite in my best shape. Perhaps because of overwork and less sleep in these last few weeks. And probably also the overdance on salsa floor last night.I felt pain and aches allover my body. I  was not fit, I felt tired, exhausted and sleepy. To be honest, I didn’t want to get out of bed and wished time stood still so that I could stay in my warm and cozy bed as long as I desired.But yet duty called and I persevered in my task.I woke up and went to see Mrs. Nightingale right on time.

Mrs. Nightingale is 85 and lives alone in a three-storey apartment in Bekkerveld district.It locates in a quite and a very good neighborhood.There is no lift but stairs in the apartment. She lives on the first floor and it takes about 6-7 staircases from ground to her residence. Well,that doesn’t sound any problem for any young fellows but for a very senoir like Mrs. Nightingale, it’s still very tough,though with help of a  stick. She therefore hardly goes out and spends a great deal of her time inside her home.

Mrs. Nightingale is a widow and ,like many other aged people in The Netherlands,lives far away from the relatives and rarely receives a visit. Actually she had 2 children,but her son has passed away 19 years ago with heart disease, now only daughter left and lives almost 150 miles away from Heerlen, in Dordrecht. Staying in touch between them is possible mainly by phone. Seemingly, I’ve recently become the only one who sees her regularly and more often than her own family.And without doubt, she rejoices the companionship I've brought about. Mrs.Nightingale will be truely pleased to have someone with her even if just a few hours a week.

I was at her door right on time this morning. As every Wednesday, she smiled when she opened the door for me and we greeted cheerfully our own way.

As maxican proverb says “conversation is food for the soul” and I ensure it.To start the dialogue after traditional greeting, I told Mrs.Nightingale frankly how I felt today.At the same time, I took a box of chocolate out of my handbag and handed to her gently.

“I’ve brought this for you” I said as smilling.

As a matter of fact, I brought her this as a little Christmas present cause today’s my last visit of 2013. Mrs.Nightingale will leave to see her daughter in Dordrect for 3 weeks from this upcoming weekend.And I will see her again next year.

“oh ! Thank you”  Mrs. Nightingale was glad and said “well, please sit down, I have something to show you”

My pencase,a clue of my favorite

Then she walked slowly with the stick to her room and came back with a  cadeau packed in the fabulous delighted blue Douglas giftbag. She handed the present to me and said “Look, I was in town and I brought this for you. I think you’ll like it.”

She sat down on the sofa opposite me and continued

“open it, maybe it’ll make you feel better” I unpacked it carefully and...Wow!

A pump bottle of liquid soap in leopard print. Oh my god ! How could she possibly know I like such a kind of print.I laughed surprisingly with a question mark on my face.

Mrs.Nightingale affirmed that I would like it. She revealed she saw my pencase on the other day and so was she confident that this would pretty much gratify me.At this point ,she had two rights.

At the first place, I liked this pump bottle a lot because of its leopard print. And secondly,I felt indeed a bit better with my condition.The joy and the laugh helped leessen the concentration of my exhaust. Like a magic,I started to regain some vitality. And I really appreciated both her thoughtfulness and the present itself. I gave her three Dutch custom kisses and warm hug as a huge thank.

“Thanks Mrs. Nightingale” I said heartily while huging her.

Then the dialogue of our today conversation went ahead...

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Christmas Market,Aachen 2013

From the garage  heading to Cathedral

The Westernmost city of Germany which one of the borders locates along some Limburg towns of the Netherlands, Aachen is about 19 kilometers from Heerlen.Driving there for me is so called “just around the cornor” and never have I a feeling of driving away from home but to the next-door town ,taking the highway E314 by car and I’ll be there within half an hour.

I drove to Aachen again today with my daughter in the afternoon after her school time. We wanted to see Christmas Market and to have “German sausages” as dinner before going home.

Quite busy evening at Christmas Market

It was a pleasant Friday the 13^th , I must say. It’s lovely,sunny and dry.I noticed while we were on road along Eurogress that Aachen this day was quite busy. Probably because it was rush hour. Everyone just left the office and heading home while some, like us, were bound for the same destination  “Christmas Market” in town.

There was congestion on the road but not so much that we had to sit too long nor to yawn in the traffic jam.I tried to get the closest garage to the market place for the parking lot and luckily,finally got one very fast at “Büchel”

Building at the cornor of Büchel Road

From the entrance of the garage, we turned to the right and kept right to “Körbergasse” where we came across colorful baskets lining along the front ground of the local shop.That made me think of  those same kind of goods from a Southern village of Thailand where the very skillful villagers weaving daily for their living. Honestly these hand-made wares are one of my favorites. And I have already many beautiful ones at home.So this time, I just made some lovely pictures before passing by and moved on to the Christmas Market.

As the Christmas Market there spread to the area around Aachen Cathedral too, my daughter had mentioned earlier that she would like to have pictures of Cathedral before dark. So we decided to walk through Münsterplatz firstly to allow her to make some pictures for her school assignment. And no sooner said than done, taking picture nowadays can be fast and easy.Afterwards we walked around that quater where most stands selling foods and beverages.

She sat on top of Glühwijn Roof

Seems Glühwijn was most popular drink of all overthere that evening.I don’t know exactly how it tastes but sure to say sweet and somewhat with herbs.It is very well-known that this alcoholic kind  of drink is served warm and most consumed especially in this period of the year.Don’t ask me for more details about the drink itself, you probably know better. Unfortunately I’m not the one who’s going to recommend this because I myself don’t drink and so I’d better skip to the next part.

Generally speaking, we all are longing to see lovely pretty things; there were lots of goods  that we see very often in local shops and those seen occasionally here. Products were varied, stands presented numerous types of goods ranging,for example, from ceramics, porcelains, wooden toys, knitwears, textiles to jewelry and ornaments. Also foods, bakeries and beverages. They were arranged nicely ,gracefully, alluring and very charming.

Chocolate Factory of all tools

One of the fastinating stands among many visitors that evening,I assumed,was the chocolate hut with  nameplate on storefront “schokoladenwerkzeug”, the chocolate factory of all tools.Having seen this before in Frankfurt last year, and now once again here,I had to admit producing chocolate is creative arts.But yet for me,they were only food for eyes. And some pictures of them would be worth remembering.

All these tools are made of chocolate

This camera is also chocolate

It goes without saying that we enjoyed the displays on the market a great deal.Please view those magnificent pictures via my links.You will realize how I really mean. Christmas Market in Aachen set 1 

Aachen itself is every attractive and has much to offer. For those who don’t come very often,when you are there,please take adventages to explore some other parts of the city rather than visiting Christmas Market only. Well, at least around this market aquare, there are not only interesting historical monuments but also entertainment lounges and cafés, shopping streets and restaurants, for instance.You’ve got to find more possiblities yourself beforehand. I assure you will definitely discover another paradise on earth there.



Light Decorations

After spending approximately an hour of zestful promenade that evening,we had satisfactorily made plenty of beautiful pictures. From the very huge market of today, I bought a very tiny Christmas decoration item in “present” form as a souvenir of a visit and my daughter bought some other little things in local shops back home.We were very delighted.

Another lovely stuff

At last,time for dinner,we strolled down steadily from Hall Town square back to Münsterplatz.As our stomachs were growling and we had promised each other in advance “German Sausages”for dinner, couldn’t wait for later.There was the simple,cozy sausages specialty that we had already in mind, in that neighborhood. It’s“HansWürsten”. So we didn’t waste any other second to doubt about and jumped into the restaurant and ready for “Bon Appetit”

See you again next time,
Take care,
Pari
By the way, Christmas Market in Aachen is held from 22 November till 23 December every year <3

Decoration on the ceiling in "HansWürsten"

"HansWürsten" menu

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Goedmens’Christmas tree

My Thursday morning routine is to visit a lovely and friendly couple, up hill further on “Heesberg” where we all know as “Heerlerbaan”area in South Heerlen.

As usual, I will be arriving at their home, family Goedmens, a few minutes before nine. Recently,what has been happening already few times in these Winter months, one after another, is that once they open the door to welcome me into their cozy loving house, the sun turns up and shines through the doorway. In fact, for me, no matter which season we are in, the sun always shines in my homeheart and I always mention to the host that “I’m bringing you the sun”

So again today, after good morning greeting, Mrs.Goedmens,the one who frequently opens the door for me, made a delightful remark with this same question.

“Are you bringing the sun with you again today ?”  

We both laughed merrily whilst the door shut carefully and we found ourselves few seconds later standing in the livingroom where Mr.Goedmens was shooting his joyful smile awaiting mutual greet from the main table we always sit at coffee time.

I can see how happy the duo are to have me with them, not only today but every time I am there, the joviality and the glee evinced on their faces.The greeting,the conversation and the story that they want to tell are full of enthusiasm and excitement. And today they had something to show me, namely the Christmas tree that they just set up recently in the beginning of this week in the living room at the place where the laptop table was.

Mrs.Goedmens drew me with her introduction to their traditional decorated and lighted tree. I  saw little angels on every limbs. And so was I praising :

“Wow ! now I know where those beautiful & sweet little angels are ! “

Goedmens'Christmas Tree

The most precious ones

Mrs.Goesmens then pointed the most precious pieces, the most recent arrivals and those they’d got from their children and their guests respectively.I was admiring their piece of work gayly and took pictures for them with my cellphone.

One of those new arrivals

They are also new

Another little Christmas Tree on Cupboard

From one conversation to another, we can talk about different things and  of many topics. Mr. and Mrs.Goedmens are retired officers, both are on their ways to 80. They are living in their own house and still able to do lots of things by their own. My task is to visit, to make sure everything is fine with them and to see whether they need any type of help I can provide.

The one I like most

Today’s visit went well without any special request.What they complained most was that about their electric bikes,which adapters haven’t been working properly lately.And therefore they can’t use the bikes temporarily. I suggested them call the company so that the adapters will be repared or they’ll get the replacement on insurance coverage cost. They thus  rang and made appointment.

Those Chocolate Snowmen at Coffee Table

After three and a half hours, my time was up and my daily duties’re completes for today.Unfortunately I was not able to make them any happier with their bikes at that moment but still I saw the look of gladness when I promised to send them those pictures of their Christmas tree I made.And they will have more decorations to show me next week.

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Last Saturday (23-11-13)

I woke up very early last Saturday to get ready for “Thai Costume Day” organized by my “Thai Pride Association”. I set alarm clock at 5am, knowing that I would not be able to get up right after the alarm went off.That’s why I always allow the clock on about an hour in advance so that I’ll be aware that I will have another hour to sleep.That’s me in the last few years ; need much sleep and hard to get out of bed. But all in all, I still have everything under control. Get out of bed in time and make myself ready to execute my daily schedule perfectly. 

The first thing I did after a usual drink bottle of water of the day,is to get my hair done. Cause I thougth it would be the most difficult part of my metamorphose of today. In fact, I had practiced doing this hair style already a few times earlier since last month. Just like every practice goes, the first time of practice will never be real good. But as long as practice makes perfect, my next exercises gradually become better and better.And so today my hairdo was succeeded at a time without mending. It turned my expectation upside down. Thus instead of the most difficult part as I thought, it was just “a piece of cake”.This is the second partyhairdo’s I made myself successfully in 2013.

 

So when the hair done, the rest runs.I have never been worried about my facial make up. That’s what I count as my everyday beautification.And it can be done in less than a quarter. I am glad that I have taken everything easy. I had prepared a great deal of work sufficiently earlier in advance. Tasks and responsibilities were already devided appropriately.And so today my team and I would not be worried about anythings else rather than making ourselves pretty and aglow in Thai costume to suit the theme of the day “Thai Costume Day”

Karel left around 7.45 am to pick up 5 monks from the Thai Temple in Eschweiler. He came back with 3 monks instead.I was informed later that one left to Thailand whilst the other had to stay at the monastery to look after the location. However,good timing,They were arriving at the place in expected time.

The program on that day started with ritual ceremony.We,Buddhists, worshiped the triple gems, requested the percepts and offered food as well as wares to the monks, for instance. The monks chanted, blessed and sprinkled holy water to all attendants at the end.Then we enjoyed lunch together.

Right after meal, we took the opportunity of today to light candle ceremony for our king Phumipol and our country.Thai pride Association wished everyone prosperity,happiness and success in all fields of life. I am happy everything ran smoothly as planned. This was the last Thai Pride event of 2013.

Few days after the event,some called to appologized that they could not come !!!! This is what I never understand. They should have called before, but they haven't. Some came already in the vicinity but suddenly got stomach ache before entering the room and so they turned around and heading home instead. And those who promised to come and never show up and never call. These kind of things are some characters of Thai people I encounter here !

Till we meet again next year then.

Pari

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A poem from J.D Estrada "Pari Smiles"

If you have a friend who is author and fond of writing, you'll never know how he will surprise you after the last conversation you two made.

Talked to J.D Estrada few weeks ago, during the chats he mentioned something about "Pari smiles",as a joke I said something back which I do not remember nor even think about any more and never expected he would take it seriously.

A few days ago after a short conversation of last week, he sent me this poem.

Pari Smiles

Fullmoon rises

Spreads for miles

lights horizons

Sparkles of Thailand

joy surprises

Deep in Nether's Land

Pride it prizes.

Sweetly given,

gently shared,

Pari smiles,

with love and care

Thank you so much J.D. I like it. You are great !

Find out more about J.D Estrada and his recent book
“Only Human”

http://jdestradawriter.blogspot.nl/

Cheers,

Pari

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Irritating behaviors men should avoid !

Through life experience and some conversations I have made in the last couple of years,with women from different ages (mostly between 35and50),status and fields of work for instance,I have garthered and gained some interesting viewpoints about male behaviors that women think annoy them and that men should avoid if possible. Talking about this topic doesn’t mean that I hate or antagonize men nor was I trying to seduce those women to do so.I was not doing a research about it either. Not at all and don’t get me wrong,dear! But through my work, I see and talk with women a lot. And when women meet, you know! We will talk about women things,about cloths,beauty as well as personal life.

I’m here not as an expert or relationship therapist,but someone who will pass on useful information and message to the guys.To be fair to them,I think they should be warned and informed about this so that they will look at themselves and  be aware of what might bother their ladies.This can perhaps prevent the quarrels,the nuisance or in some severe case, the break up.So let’s find out what are those irritating behaviors women think men should avoid.

1. Complain:

It’s pretty much pesky if you live with someone who complains about everything for no reason. Some men complain every single day, some even worse, they complains everytime they see you. Whether it’s because of unhappiness of their lives or the bitter background of their childhood or being pessimistic with everything around.It’s unhealthy at all, not only for themselves but also for the ones who share their lives with.Please try to find ways to eliminate this creepy habit.If you can’t cope with it by yourself,seek for professional help.You will get over it.

2. Snore:

This is one of the most annoying habits that can cause disturbances in relationship.Snoring can effect the living pattern of individualist.It can interrupt the sleep of both the snorer and the bed partner.You will face sleepless and stress problem will be arised.Don’t keep your partner awake,well, in fact both of you need good rest. Do something about it, there are treatments to stop it.

3. Swear or say cursing and bad words:

Some men are like “having cursed disease”, whatever goes wrong,even small things, they will utter “fuck,you know!”, “damn it”,”shit, “go to hell”,”fuck the duck”, “asshole” ,”bitch”,  “bullshit”, “#@*Wp*&**#” bla bla bla and etc. I’m sorry that I have to show some examples of those unpleasant and not even unqualified expessions. I myself feel ashamed to speak out one of these offensive languages and I’d rather be deaf than to hear any of them at all. Unfortunately you can find these so-called words in every language. But if you guys keep saying them too often,please try to reduce the frequency and if possible controle your mind not to emit those inappropriate phrases in front of women.They find them irksome!

4. Act bossy:

Bossy person is considered to be “difficult people”type. Some guys love to do so and it becomes their habit.They dictate,dominate and want others to do whatever they want them to do.They believe to be smarter than others,in our case,than their women.They control and can drive women crazy. Well,guys I’m telling you this.. most women don’t like to have bossy man around.It’s frustrating and doesn’t boost satisfaction to women at all.

5. Be rude and harsh

When you are impolite by pointing your finger on someone’s face and shout out loud with aggressive manner,you are showing your rudeness.That’s disgusting.The way you show the lack of respect to others and that you ruin others positive feelings or good mood. A harsh word stirs up anger.This is a suffering life pattern, women dislike and are ready to walk away.  

6. Have hot temper:

There are many reasons that can make people angry.And there are many ways to express your anger healthily.We’re human,we can be angry but please not too quick! Hot-tempered,short-tempered, quick-tempered or easily-angered can be destructive.These people are looking for a fight,when they are angry they will do foolish things and act foolishly.Their mind is not engaged so it’s almost impossible to reason with them.Women don’t make friendship with hot-tempered man.It’s too dangerous to be with!

7. Lack of empathy:

You may probably ask if empathy an habit ? right I can tell you it’s an habit that you can cultivate to improve the quality of your own life. Empathy is ability to understand others’feelings and perspectives, and that you can use this understanding to guide your action.Remember that we all can develope and nurture the growth of empathy throughout our life.When you lack of empathy, you hardly care for others, you won’t listen and you won’t understand.You then won’t communicate effectively.The consequence will only worsen the relationship.So do something about it.

8. Don’t help with household jobs:

Like the old proverb says “Man may work from sun to sun but a woman’s work is never done” and it’s true, a woman work is never done. Some guys have the wrong ideas that household work belongs to women only. When back from the office,men relax laying on the couch watching tv and after meal never help with cleaning or other things in house.This is unjustified,women need household help.And they need you,guys , to assist them.Remember that working together will be more enjoyable,also in the kitchen.

To sum up, these are just some examples of irritating habits which can annoy women tremendously.Well, al least you guys know that now.

Till next time,

Pari

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Quality Sunday !

Sunday 13-10-13

It’s Sunday,and I had no other plan else rather than staying home and later in the afternoon going out eating with my son in Aachen. My daughter is having Automn vacation and left for diving in Spain with her dad few days ago.And they will be back next week.

I was late to bed last night and so up late, about 10 a.m while it was windy outside with some drizzle in somber sphere.It must have been cold out there,like yesterday when I was with a friend  at the market in Eygelshoven for some fish and vegetables.I’m glad it’s Sunday,there is no liability for outdoor activities, to force me to drees up in a hurry to drive away to somewhere.It’s warm and cozy inside as always.That’s why I did not mind how the weather outside was like.As today I prefered to stay home anyway before outgoing with my boy in the afternoon.

Out of the window in the kitchen during my nearly-noon breakfast this morning,I saw some leaves falling down from the trees.It’s a bit quiet today.I didn’t hear any birds singing from our backyard at all. They were probably cuddling in  their warm and gentle nests, not only to take most adventage of restful Sunday but also (I think) to adjust themself to get used to these cold days,like we,human-being do.

Sometimes I have an idea that nature has its tricky way to lock some people as well as some animals indoor,when it comes to a point of seasonal changing process.The weather will be lightly unpleasant with chilling wind or some rain that soaks the surroundings wet and muddy at some places.So we will hate to go out and will spend most of our time doing some lovely things in the house instead. Until the process is done,the sun will shine and nature will allure us to get out of the shelter again,with delightful mood.Then we will notice some changes. The leaves have been changing the colors,some are on, while others are off the limps and lying on the ground.Some have become red or brown ,others have turned into orange or yellow.And many have got mixed. But all in all, the combination of those different colors makes scenery fastinating! I love the color of Automn. Gorgeous !

Though there’s less light, much of cool wind today, I made a terrific plan for an appetizing afternoon with my son. We hardly sit down and talk lately. He has been spending most of his time with his friends,study and part-time job. I would really love to communicate with him as much as I do with my daughter.I took him out for diner in Aachen this afternoon. Food was good, variety of all kinds were offered,we both enjoyed our choices. But better than that, spending quality time together was even more joyful and loveable.It’s precious moment of all.This is my quality Sunday.

As the season has already been changing for a while.The colorful landscape along the way to the restaurant had attracted our attention pretty well. So when possible,we stopped along the way and made some pictures of the trees and the leaves.We both had wonderful time.

Till next time,

Pari

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